Saturday, August 29, 2009
Lesson Learned
*I would also like to note we are currently listening to Celine Dion on the radio* haha! When I first came to Kenya, my bff Leslie was shocked we didn't all talk like Celine Dion... *sigh* memories. I really hope I don't come back home as one of those people who travel just so they can go home and say "In Kenya this" and "in Kenya that" (shudders).
ANYWAYS, I know my posts have been a bit heavy lately since I'm leaving soon and getting all philosophical and stuff. But today, I'd like to keep it short and sweet and share with you a few things I've learnt in the past few days:
1. Never ever over-estimate a Kenyan man's alcohol tolerance. (the photos below were from last night when Willis, our body guard, took us clubbing and assured us a few shots were not going to affect him. NOT TRUE. haha fun times)
2. When taking a bus across country, ALWAYS ALWAYS request a seat in the front. My butt is still bruised from the bumpy ride :(
3. There is a HUGE difference between the word Matoke and Mataco. One is a specialty Ugandan dish. The other means butthole.
4. Don't eat cupcakes in your bathing suit. crumbs.
5. If you want to order shots, you should really call them "tots". Saying "I want a shot" apparently means you want a prostitute.
There's alot of story telling to do once I get home :)
Busy little bees
Boy, the past 24 hours have been eventful! We've been travelling again, from upcountry to Nairobi. I'm sad to say it was my last time seeing Rift valley, the tea plantations, Mau forest and Nakuru, among tons of other amazing things. *sigh*
Although it was a long journey with Mama, we decided to skip resting. (it's not her style). Mama Pheobe Asiyo is part of Nairobi's Women's Caucus, which we've visited in our last excursion here. She's also the UN's UNIFEM representative in Kenya. I'm really grateful to have her as a host mother, especially since I've seen first hand how important it is to push the women's agenda here and around the world.
Anyways, the Women's Caucus has representatives in every region in the country. These are just local women who are concerned with the development of their community. Pretty much any positive initiative a woman is interested in, the Caucus will back.
That's what brings us to Huruma today, in a slum called Madoya. In this area, lives Mama Lucy, a women who runs an orphanage/school called Little Bees.
For more than a decade this one woman has been running this school in the middle of the slum. Did I mention she also lives there with the kids? She is truly extraordinary and deserves the admiration of all who know her.
At Little Bees, she also runs other initiatives such as basket weaving classes and farming on her small plot in order to provide a holistic learning environment as well as an opportunity to generate some money. There are also flush toilets and clean shower areas available to the community for a small price.
Even though Mama Lucy has done alot for her community, there is still work to be done. The fact that she provides the only available flush toilets and running water in Madoya (which is huge by the way), speaks for itself. Through the slum walkways are streams of disease-infested water. The infrastucture is just the start, but with Mama Lucy and other development-conscious women in the area, I know the Little Bees will continue to do great things.
Saturday, August 22, 2009
I know your heart's weathered by what studs did to you...
Through it all, I will always hear the whispers of countless women at the back of my mind, willing me to take every opportunity I have, advising me not to make a mockery of my circumstance. Dozens of women telling me to remember them when I succeed because there is no reason why I shouldn't. All the while, I am humbled because I think, it could be me. It could be me nursing a child, without promise of food the next day. It is only because of my dumb luck that I was born on the other side of the world, where I experience privileges without having to earn them. I'm thankful the women have opened up to me while I was here and I want to come back to Toronto and optimize every chance I'm given because I know these women would find a way to do it if they were in my position.
With that said, I'll see you soon ;)
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
Umoja: calling for unity
This is me putting my mother's sewing lessons into practice :) *hi mom*
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Story time! to change or not to change? Part 2
Anyways, the purpose of this post begins with a story about my childhood my mom always tells me, and that I'm constantly reminded of when I'm here.
Both of my parents are refugees and because of our very humble background our home needed a double income. Because of this, I was enrolled in daycare right when I was potty trained at age 2. Now, being the first generation born in Canada is hard enough. Since I was introduced to daycare at such an early age, it was hard for me to pick up Cantonese. I don't really have the accents down right so my parents speak to me in their mother tongue and I reply in English. That's our system. It should not be tampered with. haha
When I was about 7 and making my weekly visit to the grandparents', they were criticizing my mom because I spoke in English. My mother, who was also feeling the pressure to embrace both cultures, told my grandmother boldly "my daughter knows how to speak Cantonese". She turned to me and said "You know how to speak your language so do it". After several minutes of coercion from my family members, I was resolved. I decided to stop speaking entirely for 3 days. (which is an eternity for a small child)
The reason why I'm reminded of this story is because I've always insisted on doing things my way, in my own time. One of my biggest challenges here has been sharing my experience with Mayan. He's great, don't get me wrong, but living with him has taught me that sometimes you need to compromise some of your own wants in order to make way for stronger friendships. It seems obvious right?
The truth is, the lifestyle I live at home is a selfish one and I'm not afraid to admit it. Many of my relationships have not endured the ups and downs me and Mayan have had because if I feel like disconnecting and doing my own thing for a week, I can. And I do. But when I'm living with someone who has a general idea of what I'm doing at all times it can make me defensive and at times, hostile.
This is just part of my personal growth here and I am in no way used to living with someone, even though the summer is almost past. Sometimes we hate each other, but it can't stop us from being together because no matter how much I resist (and its mostly me), we need to rely on each other. And its the idea of showing vulnerability that I hate most, not Mayan. The other day I was getting really frustrated and short with him and he kinda told me off haha. It took all my strength to say sorry. Apologizing is such a simple gesture but its been hard for me all summer because I felt like I was the one having their space invaded. But I've learnt to put things in context and realized that it's not his fault for not knowing when I want to be left alone and when I'm ready to make myself available. Vice versa.
When I exit the home, I'm ready for the world and all the socializing. It's been the moments in the home, in my safe space, that I've found it hardest to make adjustments.
I'm working on it though ;)
Saturday, August 1, 2009
Fort Jesus
My girl likes to partying all the time...
So, on our first night we took our girl Sheila's recommendation and hit up Bob's, an outdoor bar/club place and met a few archaeology students taking a break from digging up the desert in the North. Kenya, by the way, is often referred to the cradle of life. GOD I love this place! Anyways we ended up partying with them and ended up at their villa! (which was kinda set up like real world. WEIRD.)
The thing that messes me up about Kenya is that the clubs close whenever the last person leaves. So you can imagine how EXHAUSTED I was the next day *damn you Safari and Kenya cane!* I was also burnt out because I'm soft and we hadn't had that kind of excitement in a LONG time. Needless to say we took it to another level... Toronto Style ;)
I was feeling disgusting last night but said, "what the heck, let's do it again". This time we hit up Tembo, also recommneded by Sheila, our girl from Philly :) *She's papa's granddaughter*
The old guy was totally patting my butt.